As a single lady with a very high sex drive, I purchased this toy for myself. I've only used it a handful of times, with mixed emotions, but each time gets better. At first, I wasn't sure the toy fit my body, but I think was trying too hard. I needed to dial back the power, relax my grip, and allow the toy to do its job. Since that first great effort, I've enjoyed it much more. Though, I do feel I need to have the house to myself when playing with the Enigma, as I'm unable to contain myself and become quite "vocal". It's no man, there's nothing quite like the real thing... but it does a darn good job and I'd say I've become quite fond of this toy and look forward to having time alone.